אורי – ילד שלי מוכה
אורי – ילד שלי מוכה
בית, שקט ושלווה, טלוויזיה מהבהבת בסלון ללא קול. בחדרו הנאה והמרווח בבית אביו, מכין אורי שיעורי בית, לכיתה ח’. איש מחבריו לכיתה ואף המחנכת, אינם יודעים מה מתרחש בחייו. הזעקה שאינה נשמעת, חורכת את השלווה המדומה של הבית, בחדר הנאה בו לומד אורי.
מחר יחזור אורי אל הגהנום, לבית אמו.
כל יום בשובו מביה”ס, מחכה לו אמא בבית, עם השיחות. אבא השאיר לה רכוש וכספים רבים לאחר הגירושין, והיא לא צריכה לצאת לעבוד.
כל יום, פרט ל”ימים של אבא”, הוא נאלץ להקשיב לשיחות, עם אמא. הוא סיגל לעצמו יכולת התנתקות, אבל זה לא מצליח להשכיח מלבו, את המילים, אשר חורצות וחותכות בלבו פנימה. מילים נוראות אודות אביו, הפושע, הרוצח, הבוגד. כל יום, הוא נאלץ לשמוע מילות נאצה כלפי אביו. אורי חייב להנהן בראשו, מילה לא נכונה מפיו, והכול מתחיל מחדש. המכות, הופכות נוראות והעלבון צורב מבפנים, כמו אש המאכלת את ליבו של אורי.
בתחילה הוא פחד לספר לאבא, אבל ברגע מסוים, יצאה מפיו הזעקה.
אז החל הגהנום האמיתי של הילד אורי.
אבא המזועזע, פנה אל הגורמים המוסמכים. הוא ביקש שיעזרו לבנו. הוא פנה אל בית המשפט וביקש לקבל משמורת על אורי, על מנת להגן עליו מפני הסבל ולטפל בו כפי שמגיע לו.
אז גברו המכות. אמא חשה שבנה בוגד בה והיא איבדה שליטה לחלוטין. עובדות הרווחה, שאלו שאלות וכך אף המשטרה. השוטר אליו פנו, אחרי מכות קשות במיוחד, לאחר שהשכנים הזעיקו משטרה, אמר לו, “אם היית הילד שלי, גם אני הייתי מרביץ לך, אסור להתחצף לאמא.”
במהלך המאבק של אבא למען אורי, טענו הגורמים, שהוא “מדבר מגרונו של אבא”. אבא מסית אותך. איך אתה מדבר על אמא?
גורמים מטעם רשויות הרווחה טוענים, כי כאשר הורה אחד מכה וההורה השני אינו מסוגל להגן על הילד, יש להעבירו למרכז חירום, לסביבה שקטה.
אבא מסוגל להגן על אורי ולטפל בו באהבה ובמסירות. אך לא מאפשרים לאורי לגדול בבית אבא. למה כשאורי אומר שאמא מכה אותו, לא מאמינים לו?
הכניסו את אורי למין מוסד סגור כזה – “מרכז חירום”, לכמה חודשים, הרחק מהחברים, מביה”ס ומכל המשפחה, לבד. אמרו לו, שאם הוא לא יבקש לחזור לאמא, יכניסו אותו לפנימייה, שאבא אינו רלבנטי. את אבא, מרשים לו לראות ב”מרכז הקשר”, שעתיים בשבוע.
חלפו השנים, אורי כבר בכיתה י’. התמונה של אורי עושה שיעורי בית בבית אבא, נראית רחוקה, כמו מעולם שהיה ואיננו עוד. כך קבע בית המשפט.
עד שלא תחדלנה הדעות הקדומות נגד אבות, עד שלא ייעשה מעשה והמערכת לא תתחיל לפעול למען טובת הילד האמיתית, ימשיך לבו של אורי לשתות דם. והארץ שותקת והארץ שוקטת.
מהי טובת הילד האמיתית? טובת הילד האמיתית, היא להיות מטופל ע”י שני הורים אוהבים ותומכים, הדואגים לכל מחסורו ולצרכיו, הרגשיים הנפשיים והפיזיים.
ביהמ”ש אינו מסוגל לקבוע מהי טובת הילד, מבלי לקבל חוות דעת מן המומחים. ביהמ”ש פונה לפקידי/ות הסעד, אשר לעיתים, במקום לייצג את טובת הילד, הם מייצגים את מה שהם חושבים, כי הינו מאבק על זכויותיה של האישה, עמה הם מזדהים ועליה הם מגנים.
נשים עמלו שנים רבות, להכרה בזכויותיהן ובהשוואת מעמדן למעמד הגברים, ובצדק רב. אולם, אין בכך כדי לאפשר לנשים מסוימות, לרמוס את זכויות הגברים לטפל בילדיהם ובכך, לקפח את זכויות הילדים.
מרבית האמהות הן אמהות טובות, אוהבות, מסורות ותומכות, אך יש כאלה שלא.
אלה שלא – נשים מכות, זוכות להגנה תמוהה מאוד של מרבית הגורמים במדינת ישראל. ילד להורים גרושים, אשר מתלונן, כי אמו מכה אותו, עלול להיות מועבר בצו ביהמ”ש ל”מרכז חירום”. הגורמים, ימנעו מאביו לראותו עקב הטענה המופרכת, כי הוא מסית את הילד. כך, שאב, אשר כל “פשעו” היה הרצון להגן על בנו מהתעללות, עלול להפסיד כל קשר עם בנו.
ואני שואלת, איך נעצור את זה? איך נשמור ונגן על ילדינו, אנו ההורים הטובים האוהבים, שרחוקים מעולמו של הילד אורי.
הנשמה השסועה, הנפש הצעירה והמדממת, אינה יודעת את נפשה. אורי.
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תגובה אחת על “אורי – ילד שלי מוכה ”
Control the tempo of the motion (e.g., three seconds to lower, 1
second to press up) to increase time under pressure. When lifting heavy, always
use a spotter or safety pins on the bench rack for added security.
No matter which one you do, ensure to good the
shape before stacking on the weight. Skilled coaches advocate
for 7-9 hours of sleep for athletes to make sure restoration and
improvement in pressing exercises. As An Alternative of overlifting,
reduce the burden you are lifting till you can full the exercise with none bouncing.
Deciding On a weight that’s too heavy typically results in different common mistakes, which may
undercut your efforts or result in harm. If you start with
the best weight for you, you will be less prone to encounter the opposite
points talked about below.
Its simplicity and effectiveness make it a staple in gyms worldwide.
In this complete guide, we’ll explore flat bench workouts, the muscular tissues they aim, benefits,
variations, frequent errors, and tricks to maximize your outcomes.
None
of this means the barbell bench press is a nasty train, but
doing bench press with dumbbells will get around all of those drawbacks.
In addition, including dumbbell bench presses to your exercises will enhance exercise variety.
Studies inform us that selection is just as
important as, sets, reps, and weight for building muscle and power
(1). The greatest train for you is determined by your
particular person targets and talents.
Proper respiration patterns and lifting tempo are crucial for maximizing
the efficacy of the Flat Dumbbell Press. Inhale as you decrease the dumbbells, keeping
the movement regular and unhurried. This not only helps in stabilizing
the core but in addition ensures a rhythm that can improve focus and power
generation all through the raise.
Your physique, with its strengths and weaknesses, is
exclusive, and just because lifters seem to be 20–30% stronger in the flat
bench press on common, it doesn’t imply that the identical necessarily applies to you.
How much weight you possibly can carry in every train will
depend, among different things, on your particular person body structure,
making you more or less proficient at one or the opposite.
Many individuals really feel that the incline press
places less stress on their shoulder joint compared with the usual bench press.
Whether Or Not you choose neutral grip or parallel grip bench press, the key
is to find the variation that best aligns together with your health targets
and bodily capabilities. By understanding the benefits and downsides of each grip, you presumably can optimize your chest development and achieve your desired results.
Free weight presses supply a symphony of muscle activation, honing not just power but in addition stability and
coordination. On the flip aspect, the normal bench press is the bedrock of
brute force, setting the stage for unequalled mass and strength
gains. Together, they write a success story on your chest exercise narrative.
This comprehensive guide guarantees a deep dive into the nuances of each workouts.
We’ll discover how alternating dumbbell lifts and barbell presses
can shatter plateaus and amplify features.
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private training background. As the bench is inclined, the activation of
the middle and lower pec decreases, while the upper pec has
to bear the brunt of the work together with the front deltoid.
If your feet usually are not comfortably flat on the
ground, use blocks or weight plates rather than inserting your
legs on the bench, which reduces stability. You can use these charts to help you
get a good suggestion of how a lot you can raise.
Then, you’ll find a way to regulate the load as needed to match your fitness goals.
Press the weights collectively as hard as you’ll be
able to and keep this inward pressure throughout the train. Subsequently, I
counsel you go together with the incline dumbbell press first in your workout.
If you do flat presses first, you may fuel out and never have sufficient
vitality to maximise your weights and raise with good type.
The main good factor about single arm dumbbell bench presses is that you
could tackle muscle imbalances.
By addressing common questions and misconceptions, we hope to provide clarity and confidence to those trying to incorporate this exercise into their fitness regimen. Keep In Mind,
everyone’s health journey is unique, so tailor your method to
go well with your particular person objectives and capabilities.
Yes, the flat bench press strengthens the muscle tissue responsible for good posture, such as the upper back and
shoulders.
If you’re aiming for improved muscle stability and joint
well being, the flat dumbbell press is the superior option. For maximum power gains, the barbell bench press could be better suited.
Since the flat bench press is sort of a demanding exercise, it’s greatest
to perform it close to the beginning of a exercise when you’re not overly fatigued.
If your goal is energy, focus on lifting within the 1-5 rep range.
Nevertheless, if you’re seeking to construct muscle, it’s better to lift within the 8-12 rep range.
To refine dumbbell and barbell chest presses, have interaction in paused reps.
This amps up tension and enhances muscle
stimulation. Incline variations target the higher pecs more,
and flat bench targets general chest development.
Tuck your elbows slightly in in the direction of the torso to allow you to stack the dumbbells immediately above your
elbows. 2– Subsequent, push the other weight up
whereas bending your other arm. Some key cues, which you’ve in all probability gather by now are, you need to decrease the bar to your neck
level and your elbows should be direction underneath the bar, so
they are going to be at 90˚ with your physique.
In addition to the dynamic muscular tissues of the lift that we simply went
over, you’ve stabilizer muscular tissues… Your forearm
should be completely vertical when the bar touches your chest.
Decrease the bar as long as you possibly can while nonetheless sustaining an in any other case
correct kind and don’t expertise any discomfort. The goal is to
work your muscle tissue via a protracted range of motion, and if
you decrease the bar till your chest and shoulder muscular tissues are totally stretched, that’s lengthy enough.
For a lot of people, this will be when the barbell touches the chest,
but not for everyone. Your anterior deltoids (aka entrance delts) are activated to a larger
extent within the incline bench press.
Transfer the bar backward gradually till you’re feeling the rack uprights, then decrease the bar to the barbell relaxation. This exercise works
every of those muscle groups differently, and it targets some more than others.
Additionally, the athlete ought to concentrate on their hand positioning.
Their palms ought to be in the course of the dumbbell to achieve a balanced weight distribution. Make health & fitness your high priority with tips about workouts, wholesome consuming, wellness
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A good place to begin is to choose out a small weight and try a set of eight to 12 repetitions.
The athlete should full no less than eight repetitions utilizing the correct form.
They can proceed to extend the weight until they can not complete
a set of eight to twelve reps. Though not the primary muscle group worked in the course of the flat chest
press, the biceps brachii act as stabilizers and help in sustaining grip on the barbell.
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No, the dumbbell bench press isn’t harmful if the athlete uses the correct kind and lifts an applicable quantity of weight.
One of the first advantages of the dumbbell bench press is
the higher vary of motion. To maximize this profit,
the weight should be under your chest on the backside of the press.
At the top of the press, you want to bring the dumbbells collectively.
You might need to focus far more on stabilizing the barbell as you decrease it
and press it. This is great for activating your primary movers differently,
however more so it will increase the demand on all your stabilizing muscular
tissues. This is a great way to develop overall power that
will translate to stronger extra steady normal presses.
Your arms should be at about 45˚ out of your torso when doing a standard flat bench
press.
1– Sit on the end of an train bench with
a dumbbell in each hand. Count On expert-backed exercises, nutrition advice, the newest in strength sports,
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Since you wish to have an enormous, strong chest, you may be finest
suggested to do both these workouts in your workouts.
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program. If you suppose about strength curves,
the movement is less complicated at the top than it is the
bottom.
By flexing your stomach and again and preserving your toes firmly on the ground, you’re
maximizing your body’s ability to push the
burden away from you. Whereas it may be very important decrease the barbell to your chest,
it’s not essential to the touch it. Lower the bar until your elbows are at a 90-degree angle for optimum muscle
engagement. Shoulder ache might result from improper form, extreme weight, or lack of mobility.
Maybe you have upgraded your home fitness center went from just having dumbbells to an influence rack, olympic
weights and olympic barbell which is nice. As you rock back try to
concurrently retract your scapula and depress them.
In other words, pinch your shoulder blades together and down bringing your elbows
alongside your torso and the dumbells into pressing position.
It’s beneficial for athletes hoping to beat a plateau with the barbell bench
press or trying to steadiness the chest muscles. Moreover, this exercise provides athletes a larger vary of motion than the traditional barbell
press. Keep In Mind to adjust the weight and repetitions based in your health level and objectives.
This sample exercise routine incorporates the flat chest press
as the first train and includes extra workout routines to focus on other muscle teams
in the upper body. It provides a balanced approach
to energy and muscle growth. One of probably the most impactful workout routines to build
power in these muscle tissue is the flat bench dumbbell press.
The hammer chest press takes a little stress
off the shoulders whereas emphasizing the internal and
decrease pec main. The movement is type of related
as an everyday db bench press except your hands shall be held in a hammer grip (neutral grip with palms facing in) and you’ll have your arms at about 90˚.
With hammer grip chest presses, you’ll have an even greater ROM as a
result of you probably can convey your arms closer together on the top of the motion.
This is a standard bench press in phrases of form and physique positioning and everything.
The only distinction is you’ll use bands to hold weights off
the ends of each sleeves of the barbell. By doing this, you will
be completely altering the dynamics of stability.
You also needs to think about practicing the cues used by judges in a powerlifting competitors.
Functionally, the dumbbell incline press transfers naturally to
a range of pushing and pressing motions, such as pushing open a heavy door or placing
groceries away on elevated cabinets. If your bench is adjustable,
set the incline to between 30- to 45-degrees.
For example, a narrower grip bench press will put additional
emphasis on the triceps and forearms. A bench press is an train that can be used to strengthen the muscular tissues of the upper physique, including
the pectorals, arms, and shoulders. The pectoralis major is the first purpose athletes use
the dumbbell bench press. This muscle group is positioned in the middle of your
chest and is among the most seen mirror muscles. The primary function of the pectoralis major is the rotation and
flexion of the shoulder joint. Whether you’re a newbie or a seasoned lifter, the flat dumbbell press provides countless opportunities for progress.